I love this type of plant. There are so many petals and layers to it. A lot like us actually. Quite often when we try make changes with ourselves, we are all excited in the beginning but then get frustrated when things don’t work out the way we want them to, or we get frustrated because we are thinking we aren’t making progress. Sometimes our situation actually will get worse, before it gets better.
What is really happening is that we are peeling off the layers and revealing more and more of our true essence. Just like an onion and just like this flower. If you think of all the layers that are added to you as you come from that near perfect little baby to where you are as an adult, you will understand the amount of layers that you need to peel off. All those insecurities and little emotional cuts that have built up from what well meaning parents, siblings, friends, teachers, churches, groups, societies, coaches, business colleagues etc, have been telling you over the years. All these limiting thoughts about the way you have to act, they way the world works, what defines success, what you can wear, what will make people laugh at you, what will make you better, what career you should do, what your partner should be like, etc etc. All this information that you are bombarded with and most of it from well meaning people, add to these layers of our own complexities.
And sometimes only later on in life when we say. “Hang on a sec, that is not what I wanted or signed up for”, and you see the falseness and ridiculousness of it all, that is when we decide to make the change. You try make the change and sometimes, things start crashing around you. That is OK. Just think of this flower or an onion. Just peel away each layer until you get to the core, the essence. It may take a day, a week, a year or a lifetime, but you will find out who you really are. And it isn’t what other people think of you.
“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” ― Lao Tzu